27 February 2019


These first three photos are for all of you that look at Ezra, then squint at Jon and I and say, "so, which one of you does he look like?"

That question honestly freaked me out so badly at the beginning. Being an IVF baby, there is always that weird one-in-a-million chance that the doctors got the egg or sperm or both mixed up before putting them back where they belong. What if Ezra isn't my biological baby? Honestly, not that big of a deal...until you think about the rights of the actual biological parents. And what if my biological baby was out there with someone else? THAT would kill me.

Luckily, as you can see by the photos, there is very little to worry about on that count.

On first glance, it appears that Ezra looks just like his mama. But, if you look a little longer you can see that, actually, he is about halfway between both of us. His nose shape and chin are a mix of us both. He may have my hairline, but his hair has gone blond like his daddy's did when he was a baby. Also, the spacing of his eyes and nose are exactly like Jon, as are his very vividly blue eyes. He is a beautiful, synergistic blend that is somehow both much cuter and cooler than either of his parents ever were as babies.

In other news, I've started taking a boxing class. It feels especially progressive heading off to go boxing with my girlfriends when our husbands are back at home with the babies.

So, I guess, point to women's lib...

That is until you wake up for the next three days feeling like you are dying. Then you start to wonder if maybe boxing is fundamentally incompatible with a mom bod. The jury is still out, but we have another class tonight so we'll see how it goes.

Ezra loves books (sometimes that just means he loves pushing them off onto the floor), so we spend a fair bit of time at the library these days. You can see how excited he is to be there. I feel you little man... every time I move someplace new and I have to get a new library card, it feels like the world is suddenly at my fingertips. It is thrilling to think of all the things he still gets to learn from books.

Now that the temperature is the warmest February it has ever been in recorded UK history, we are loving the park! We are lucky to have an amazing one right within walking distance of our house. Sometimes we can even wrangle Jon into coming with us.

Right now I spend every free moment during the day studying for my 'Life in the UK' test, which is a prerequisite for getting permanent residency. It is brutal. You can try a practice test for yourself here. Jon is applying for residency this week and (if we get accepted), I have about three weeks to pass the test and apply as well. Please pray (or send positive affirming vibes into the universe--whatever your jam is) for us! We've already been rejected once on a technicality, so we are hoping everything goes through this time without a hitch.

This photo probably belongs in the last post, but it is a good behind-the-scenes of what motherhood looks like for me, frequently with a camera up and making a funny face while a baby stares. I'm lucky that he is--generally--a very good natured little squish. He never puts up a fuss when I scramble to find my camera to capture whatever funny thing he is currently doing.

He is turning into a little boy very quickly though... much faster than I expected. I always told myself that I'd stop posting photos of him publicly online once he turned one year old because I think children deserve their privacy. I set the time at one year because I figured that, before that, they were just most little squidgy blobs without much going on. But Ezra already feels like a little boy with a robust personality and sense of humour. It is starting to feel like the time to go incognito is close at hand.

So, what does that mean? Do I just stop posting photos of Ezra on the blog? Or do I set it to private so only friends and family have access? Still thinking on it... but I'll keep you all updated. Until then, here is just one more of my favourite photos this week of Ezra and his cheeky little tongue that always seems to have a mind of its own.

20 February 2019

Wells Cathedral

Here is a quick photo dump of our Sunday afternoon trip to Wells, which is just a short trip down the road. It was beautiful and snowy and picturesque and I can't imagine a more quintessentially English view. 

12 February 2019

Expat Family Blogs

Living and working as an expat may seem like a fantastic opportunity, but if you are relocating with a young family, there are a lot of challenges you may not have previously considered. The good news is that there are many expat families living and working around the world and sharing their experiences online. 

I am a big fan of expat family blogs. In fact, it just dawned on me the other day, that now that we have Ezra, Young Rubbish officially lives within that genre. I've finally arrived! 

Not only can family-centric expat blogs give really helpful information, but it can be fun to daydream about what it would be like to have family in Japan or Switzerland or someplace else fun and exotic. For that reason, I’ve teamed up with Allianz Care to spread the love and compile a list of my favourite expat family bloggers that can help give you tips on living, working & raising children abroad. Hopefully, you find a new read to love as well!

Based in: Singapore, UK, occasionally France

With two young children, The Expat Mama covers a wide range of topics including things like homesickness, children’s education abroad, and even baking. I really love her ‘The Expat Mama meets’ section, where she interviews expats from around the world about why they became expats, what they would do differently if they moved again, and advice for others moving to their location. It is a treasure trove of reliable information if you are considering a move to an expat destination.
Post to check out: If You Go Down to the Woods Today... (feeds my forest-loving soul)

Based in: Abu Dhabi

I really like bloggers who talk about financial and family matters in a really open and honest way. This blog by Keri Hedrick does just that, focusing on travel advice, family life and money matters from an expat perspective. If you are considering the costs of moving abroad or are interested in the kind of salary to expect as an expat, you'll probably find this blog helpful.
Post to check out: The Real Cost of Expat Living.

Based in: the Seychelles

Blogger Chantelle, and her husband Mark, knew from the outset that they wanted to raise their family abroad so they made the decision to move to the Seychelles only a month after marrying! They now have two children and Chantelle blogs about life as an expat in this tropical paradise.
Post to check out: Expat Family Guilt

Based in: Switzerland

This one is a really sweet blog by an American expat living in Switzerland with her three children. It follows their daily adventures and is a fresh perspective on the expat life. In particular, she discusses the pros and cons of raising her children in Switzerland and provides travel advice for the area. It is the perfect blog for parents dreaming of an idyllic Swiss life.

Post to check out: 24 Hours in Zurich

Based in: Germany

Yolande started out writing this blog (like most of us) as a sort of online journal. However, it has blossomed into a really great repository of helpful information about German life and culture. It is a great resource for young families in Germany and for parents of third culture kids.

Hopefully, this list will inspire you and take you on new wanderlust-ing daydreams! I hope these expat blogs will help answer some of the parenting questions you have about raising your children abroad. If you are one of those lucky families moving abroad, please ensure to protect your family’s health and get expat health insurance, especially if you headed to place without socialised medicine. Trust me, you will be so grateful you did. 

04 February 2019

January + Favourite/Regrets to Buy for Baby

January, January, where did you go? This month has just flashed past my face faster than I can believe. And now February has come in with a snowstorm and Ezra's experience with snow!

By all accounts, life is going pretty well. Some days, like the last two, are absolute perfection. Ezra has been the stuff of maternal daydreams--so snuggly and sweet, constantly looking up at his mama with his adoring dimpled smile and throwing his arms around my neck and giggling.

Then there are days like today. I just ran my fingers through my hair and almost gagged realising I have a head full of mini-dreads, thanks to Ezra burying his sick, snotty nose into my hair over and over again. He won't be put down for anything which means no expressing (still full time) or showering for the foreseeable future, but I can balance him on my shoulder, while I type, so... blessings?

In other news, Ezra has ALMOST started crawling thanks to a solid month of virtually nothing but tummy time. He can also take about 8 steps on his own on a good day. We also started weaning, which has been a mixture of baby-led and baby food. Amazingly, I didn't get much traction on the baby food until I realised he wanted to feed himself, and suddenly he became a hearty eater. There is no doubt he is a very independent little boy, which I'm sure will drive me to insanity when he gets older (but I'm enjoying it now--mostly because he pairs his self-determined streak with a ton of cuddles, so it somehow feels balanced).

January has been filled with fun times--a New Years Eve party with, what is now becoming, the annual game of Extreme Uno; a Mega Monopoly and mocktail night; and a Wagamama's birthday for our friend Byron. Ezra has been a champ for pretty much all of it, which makes my life a whole lot easier. I also am now a primary teacher on Sunday, which I absolutely love.

Also, now that it has been almost seven months since Ezra came into our life, I want to take a minute to reflect and write down a list of the best/worst things I bought before he was born. This is mostly for my own memory's sake, but I'll put links in case someone else finds it helpful.


1) Glass Baby Bottles
There are only two things I really felt like I splurged on, and this was the first. From nannying and working in orphanages, I learned really quickly what a pain it is to sterilise plastic bottles. Also, I know they say that they are BPA free, but heating up plastic over and over again just doesn't seem healthy to me, so I opted for glass bottles.

There is no doubt they are expensive, but I've happily got by with two small, and one large. They are sturdy and don't break when dropped (unless one comes flying out of a backpack on to stone--yes, this happened to me). They are a dream to clean and, when the time comes, retain a lot of resale value.




2) Bedside Crib
My second splurge item, as I bought almost everything else secondhand, was this sidecar crib. I love that it allows for cosleeping without the fear of having baby in the bed. Because I am a worrier, I can't imagine feeling comfortable in those early days if I couldn't hear Ezra breath or see his little glow-in-the-dark dummy move around. This also was extra helpful in the first week while I was attempting to breastfeed, as he was close at hand.



3) Books
My top three books for a newborn are the following:

First 100 Words
I hadn't realised this book was so large when I originally ordered it, but I LOVE that about it. It can stand up by itself and kept Ezra's attention better than almost anything else in those early days (and still does now). It really helps with vocabulary building, and you simply point and read the words provided or expand to more descriptive words easily.

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This book is an inexplicable diamond. It was floating around in a nursery class I once taught, and I swear I have never seen a book capture the hearts and attention of toddlers better. At six months even it is far and away Ezra's favourite book; he'll often hold it out to me to read.

The book itself is a simple story of a monkey with a banana, and his friend who comes along and also wants it. Even though it only has two words in the entire book, when read properly it teaches about sharing, manners, emotions, and friendship.
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The Very Hungry Caterpillar
Possibly the best and most classic children's book of all time? Honestly, it boggles my mind what a clever little book this is. It teaches: days of the week, foods, counting, healthy eating, biology, and change over time completely effortlessly. And it is just a beautiful little read regardless. The story is also simple enough to keep Ezra's attention even at 6 months, but engaging enough as an adult to appreciate.
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4) Wooden Toys
As I've mentioned, pretty much everything we own is a gift, made by hand, or secondhand, and the toys are no different. This partially comes from wanting to be frugal but also wanting to sensible about the environmental impact of plastics and my absolute love of pedagogies like Montessori. I'm always on the lookout on facebook marketplace or gumtree for wooden toys, but I did get this one new on Amazon, and it is one of my favourites.

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5) Breastpump
If I were not exclusively breastfeeding, I probably would not have purchased an electronic pump. However, it has been a godsend (having a child has taught me over and over that I was born in the right time in history).
Here is the handpump I used:
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Here is the electronic pump I used:
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Both have been brilliant.


1) Cloth Nappies
I don't actually have a problem with cloth nappies, and had fully intended on doing them. But I did spend a fair bit of money getting everything together for something that didn't work out.

2) Formula
This is actually something I SHOULD have bought but didn't. I didn't want to give myself an out on the breastfeeding front so I intentionally didn't buy any and put myself in a really horrible position when I temporarily went dry on a Saturday evening after all the shops had closed. Nothing is scarier than having a newborn baby screaming at you in hunger and knowing there is at least 12 hours between you and relief. Prepare ahead of time.

3) Out of season clothes
I bought most of Ezra's clothes secondhand in bundles. There were largely in like-new condition, but several of them came with out of season clothes I was never able to use. Still worth it though, and especially now that I've seen how fast babies grow out of clothes, I can't imagine spending the money to buy everything new.

4) Colourful wraps
My sister-in-law gave me several colourful baby wraps, which I LOVE (and am seriously so grateful for), but I do wish I had gotten one or two in neutral colours. I'm not the kind of person that feels super comfortable showing up in bright yellow or lavender so it took some getting used to. A black or grey one would have done the trick.